dreams, hikes, and conversations with tom

In the early months after Tommy’s death, I rarely dreamed about him, but lately he appears in my dreams very often. Like most dreams, these recent dreams about Tommy are a juxtaposition of fantasy and reality, of “wish fulfillment” and the ever-present memory of the boy and the man we all knew and loved so […]

remembering a great and happy day in 1998

My grandson Garrett’s birthday is coming up soon — he will be 15. He is affectionately known as G or G-man, both of which are diminutives of his name. I vividly remember when G was born in 1998, a great and happy day. Below is a picture of me and G taken on the beach in Goleta in […]


Driver is a 3D game, now considered a classic, that Tom and G enjoyed playing.  The interesting thing about this game, besides the 3D action and the realistic look and handling of the cars, was the fact that the action took place in real cities. My favorites were Miami and San Francisco, but I liked […]

recent thoughts, continued

During his early childhood, Tom lived in a variety of places: Point Richmond and El Sobrante (near San Francisco), and Mount Shasta in northern California. But he spent most of his childhood in Santa Monica, went to Santa Monica schools, and eventually graduated from Santa Monica High School (Samohi). Tom and his mom lived on […]