august 19

“A man’s dying is more the survivors’ affair than his own.” (Thomas Mann) Today is the anniversary of Tommy’s death, and for me it brings to mind the above quote from Thomas Mann. I think Mann got it right — Tommy’s death is something that continues to affect us. And moreso, what stays with us […]

tom’s maternal grandfather, Roger Crater

An important person in Tom’s life was his maternal grandfather (my father-in-law), Roger Crater. Tom learned a lot from Roger, and I know Tom saw his grandfather as an important role model, one of the most important in his life. Roger was an engineer with a first-rate intellect, but he was also a down-to-earth practical […]

Two Birthdays

There are two important birthdays this month. My granddaughter Sadie, Tom’s daughter, recently turned 17; also, Tom’s 50th birthday is coming up later this month. Sadie has grown up to be a gifted singer — I wish her dad could hear her sing. I still miss Tom a lot, converse often with him in my […]

“snapshots” of our boy tommy

Our local newspaper, the Medford Mail Tribune, recently published a column I submitted titled “Snapshots of Our Boy Tommy.” The column was based on a post I wrote for this blog titled “Tommy in Los Angeles.”  I edited and shortened this version to be a better fit for local readers here in southern Oregon. Here’s the link: http://www.mailtribune.com/entertainmentlife/20180429/columnist-for-day-snapshots-of-our-boy-tommy   […]

Tommy at Aunt Gertrude’s, 1975

  In a previous post I wrote about my aunt Gertrude, Tommy’s great aunt, who was my dad’s older sister. I recently came across the photo posted above, which was taken on a visit that Tommy and I made to her house in 1975. My aunt Gertrude lived most of her adult life in Riverside, […]

Tommy’s bike ride from Samohi in 1987, revisited

  In an earlier post, I described a bike ride Tommy took as part of his PE class during the spring of his senior year in high school. At the time, he drew me a map of his planned route, which took him from the gym at Santa Monica High School north to Will Rogers […]