dreams, hikes, and conversations with tom

In the early months after Tommy’s death, I rarely dreamed about him, but lately he appears in my dreams very often. Like most dreams, these recent dreams about Tommy are a juxtaposition of fantasy and reality, of “wish fulfillment” and the ever-present memory of the boy and the man we all knew and loved so […]

recent trip to point richmond

On Saturday I drove down to the Bay Area to visit a couple of the places we lived when Tommy was small. I stopped first in El Sobrante, then Point Richmond, and on the way home I spent the night in Paradise in Butte County. It was about a six-hour drive to the Bay Area, […]

point richmond, the long wharf, and walks with tommy

As I mentioned in a previous post, we moved to Point Richmond in the early 1970s, while I was working for Chevron. Our apartment at 521 Hillside Ave. was virtually adjacent to the Chevron refinery and Chevron’s Richmond Long Wharf, home port for the Chevron tanker fleet. The photo below shows a panoramic view of […]

tom’s birthday

Tom’s birthday is coming up later this week, and I’ve been experiencing thoughts and images of the day he was born. I was 20 at the time, a midshipman at the California Maritime Academy, and I had just returned from a training cruise to Brazil. I had been gone for several months, with little news […]

reading richard scarry books with tommy

I have a film clip that Tom sent me back when G-man was a toddler. It was filmed at their home in Goleta, and it shows G running from the living room, into and through the kitchen to the hallway, then back into the living room, then back into the kitchen, around and around. I […]

fastest cargo ship in the world

As mentioned in the posts before this one, I spent my early career as a ship’s officer working on board oil tankers. When Tommy was a toddler, we actually lived in Point Richmond, on San Francisco Bay, right next to the Chevron refinery. Tommy and I would walk from our house down to the bay, […]