thoughts on tom’s birthday

Today is Tom’s birthday — he would have been 45 today. The picture above typifies Tom so well: it shows him hiking in Yosemite, one of his favorite places. The photo was taken, if I’m not mistaken, by my grandson Garrett. It has been 2 1/2 years since Tom passed away, and what shouldn’t surprise […]

dreams, hikes, and conversations with tom

In the early months after Tommy’s death, I rarely dreamed about him, but lately he appears in my dreams very often. Like most dreams, these recent dreams about Tommy are a juxtaposition of fantasy and reality, of “wish fulfillment” and the ever-present memory of the boy and the man we all knew and loved so […]

lonesome moonlight waltz

Another of my favorite tunes that Tom played on his fiddle was “Lonesome Moonlight Waltz”, written by Bill Monroe. ¬†This was one of the tunes that Tom taped for his wedding in 1993, and which was played in the church as the guests arrived. Here’s a link to Tom’s version of this tune: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jV4dmOkObZ8 When […]

tom’s early years in santa barbara

Soon after graduating from college in the early 1990s, Tom moved to San Luis Obispo, where he started a mobile bicycle repair business. Even with a sound business plan and his strong mechanical skills, though, he found it a very hard business to break into. He eventually moved to Santa Barbara, where he had an […]

tom, g, and the jesusita trail

The last hike Tom and I took together was on the Jesusita Trail above Goleta. G went with us also, and the memory of that hike is especially meaningful to me. Tom had already been diagnosed with lymphoma at that point,¬†although he hadn’t started his really difficult treatment yet. He loved the mountains and trails […]