tommy performing with friends

Recently I found a video on youtube that features Tommy playing music with his friends Mike Mullins, Tom Lee, Kevin Alvarado, and others. The video was posted by Greg Harrison on April 11, 2014. Here is the link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=33jpcjUrHIk Because Tommy has obviously lost his hair prior to this performance, I’m assuming it was made sometime after he started […]

one brief shining moment

The birth of my grandson Garrett was, for me, a “shining moment” (to borrow a phrase from the musical Camelot). It was a happy day, and I know my son Tommy especially felt that way about G’s arrival. G’s sixteenth birthday is coming up soon. The anniversary of his birth is a cheerful reminder of his appearance on the scene in […]

thoughts on tom’s birthday

Today is Tom’s birthday — he would have been 45 today. The picture above typifies Tom so well: it shows him hiking in Yosemite, one of his favorite places. The photo was taken, if I’m not mistaken, by my grandson Garrett. It has been 2 1/2 years since Tom passed away, and what shouldn’t surprise […]

dreams, hikes, and conversations with tom

In the early months after Tommy’s death, I rarely dreamed about him, but lately he appears in my dreams very often. Like most dreams, these recent dreams about Tommy are a juxtaposition of fantasy and reality, of “wish fulfillment” and the ever-present memory of the boy and the man we all knew and loved so […]

lonesome moonlight waltz

Another of my favorite tunes that Tom played on his fiddle was “Lonesome Moonlight Waltz”, written by Bill Monroe.  This was one of the tunes that Tom taped for his wedding in 1993, and which was played in the church as the guests arrived. Here’s a link to Tom’s version of this tune: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jV4dmOkObZ8 When […]

thoughts on father’s day

This evening I took my usual twilight walk up the hill. These walks often evoke memories of my hikes with Tommy in the Santa Monica Mountains years ago; tonight I swore I could hear the distant echo Tommy’s familiar call of “Dad!” as he waved to me on the trail ahead. Father’s Day for me […]