tom’s children

This picture of Tom’s children was taken in late 2016. In the months since the picture was taken, Sadie turned 15, and Garrett recently  turned 19. Needless to say, Tom was blessed with great children. He loved them a lot and I know he would be proud and delighted with them now that they are entering adulthood. […]

thoughts on tom’s birthday

Today is Tom’s birthday — he would have been 45 today. The picture above typifies Tom so well: it shows him hiking in Yosemite, one of his favorite places. The photo was taken, if I’m not mistaken, by my grandson Garrett. It has been 2 1/2 years since Tom passed away, and what shouldn’t surprise […]

dreams, hikes, and conversations with tom

In the early months after Tommy’s death, I rarely dreamed about him, but lately he appears in my dreams very often. Like most dreams, these recent dreams about Tommy are a juxtaposition of fantasy and reality, of “wish fulfillment” and the ever-present memory of the boy and the man we all knew and loved so […]

remembering a great and happy day in 1998

My grandson Garrett’s birthday is coming up soon — he will be 15. He is affectionately known as G or G-man, both of which are diminutives of his name. I vividly remember when G was born in 1998, a great and happy day. Below is a picture of me and G taken on the beach in Goleta in […]