a poem from “out of africa”

In 1985, when Tommy was 16 years old, a movie titled Out of Africa was released. It was based on an autobiographical book by Karen Blixen (who wrote under the pen name Isak Dinesen), which tells the story of her life on her farm in Kenya in the early 1900s. Tommy and I went to a lot […]

Tommy’s graduation from CSUN in 1991

Tommy graduated from Cal State Northridge (CSUN) in 1991 with a degree in Real Estate. Today is the 23rd anniversary of his graduation. The graduation ceremony was on a Wednesday morning, so in order to make it to his ceremony, I headed south right after work on Tuesday. I drove 600 miles Tuesday evening and stayed in […]

additional photos

Recently I went through my family photos and found a few to add to this blog. The first is a photo that Tom took of me in the Marin headlands, one of Tom’s and my own very favorite hiking places. I posted it under “hiking in marin: the batteries, the dipsea trail, and beyond.” Also, I […]

thoughts on tom’s birthday

Today is Tom’s birthday — he would have been 45 today. The picture above typifies Tom so well: it shows him hiking in Yosemite, one of his favorite places. The photo was taken, if I’m not mistaken, by my grandson Garrett. It has been 2 1/2 years since Tom passed away, and what shouldn’t surprise […]

the santa monica mountains, part 2

I recently was going through my desk and found an old parking stub dated March 26, 1985… Tom’s 16th birthday. If my memory serves me correctly (a big “if” these days) it’s a parking ticket from Will Rogers State Park, which is located just north of Sunset Boulevard in the foothills of the Santa Monica […]

tommy and mr. plepler at stairway of the stars

I recently updated an earlier post that described Tommy’s performance at Stairway of the Stars at the Santa Monica Civic Auditorium in 1981. On that post, I have added some images, and I decided to offer those images on this new post as well. First, below, is a close-up of Tommy taken from the cover […]

christmas photos from uncle fred

My brother (Tommy’s uncle) Fred recently sent me a couple of photos taken recently. Below is a picture of Fred and his daughter, Maureen. Below is a photo of his oldest daughter, Patience. After serving with the Peace Corps in what was then Zaire (and now Republic of Congo) for a number of years, first […]

photos

I’ve been looking through some old boxes, and found quite a few old photos that I’d like to share on this blog eventually. I’ll post a sampling for now. The picture below was taken when Tommy was seven years old. At the time he was a 2nd grader at Will Rogers School on 14th Street in […]

dreams, hikes, and conversations with tom

In the early months after Tommy’s death, I rarely dreamed about him, but lately he appears in my dreams very often. Like most dreams, these recent dreams about Tommy are a juxtaposition of fantasy and reality, of “wish fulfillment” and the ever-present memory of the boy and the man we all knew and loved so […]

recent trip to point richmond

On Saturday I drove down to the Bay Area to visit a couple of the places we lived when Tommy was small. I stopped first in El Sobrante, then Point Richmond, and on the way home I spent the night in Paradise in Butte County. It was about a six-hour drive to the Bay Area, […]