“A man’s dying is more the survivors’ affair than his own.” (Thomas Mann)
Today is the anniversary of Tommy’s death, and for me it brings to mind the above quote from Thomas Mann. I think Mann got it right — Tommy’s death is something that continues to affect us. And moreso, what stays with us is the memory of his life, the time we spent with him, the things he did, the person he was.
Tommy was 42 years old when he died, but these days when I think of him, it’s the boy, and not the man, who comes to mind. My favorite memories are of our night-time outings in Los Angeles — to the arcade on Santa Monica pier, drives along San Vicente and Ocean Avenue, trips to Baskin & Robbins on Wilshire Blvd.
Good thoughts and best wishes to family and friends on this Monday evening — and to all of those who knew and loved Tommy when he was with us.